Monday, November 27, 2017
My dear daughter is a teen and she still............
My dear daughter is a teen, and she still......
will sit in my lap and let me cuddle her if I ask.
She still will tell me all about her classes,
Share with me, talking for HOURS,
(her words) "about everything."
Last night about 7 p.m.. I needed her.
She had been upstairs.
I was missing her.
I had been working on my blog.
I finished and called to her.
".... will you come down and sit on my lap?"
"Do I have to...?"
"Yes, you really do...."
"O.K..." and she appeared on the landing and I saw a grin on her face.
She came down, and sat in my lap. I am 5'10" and she is a gorgeous thin 5'7". All 5'7" of her sat across her mommy's lap and Mommy hugged her and cradled her, and smelled her hair, and told her how much she was loved.
She showed me some funny you-tube videos she has enjoyed recently. She told me the latest news happening with her friends.
I had needed this so badly that I think we sat like that for maybe 45 minutes, talking and sharing, and then, guess what? She was hungry. I made a snack and we visited more.
We cracked peanuts, munched and talked more.
She asked me about my first kiss........... She was very inquisitive. I answered everything honestly and humbly.
When I teased her about something she did a year and a half ago, I laughed so hard that I was doubled over and could hardly stand.
Why, how do we have this relationship, a teenage girl and her mom?
I think because she has never doubted that I adore her.
I am her advocate.
I respect her.
I admire her.
She also knows I am honest, because I tell her the hard truths too when she needs to know, no matter how difficult.
In neither direction do we have a one-sided relationship. I do things for her: make her lunch to go, sometimes her breakfast, dinner, wash dishes, cheer at her sports events.....) take her shopping and of course support her financially.
She does her own laundry, and will visit with me while I do dishes, and she will sweep and mop for me when I ask, and "dump compost." She makes super good grades in school and is involved in school activities that can develop her character.
I build her up daily with words.
I treat her like she is special by seeking to spend time with her.
I show her that she is capable and fun by setting and accomplishing goals and crafties while having fun with her.
What seems to be important bonding time with you and YOURS?? I would enjoy your sharing in the comments.
Grandma Mary Martha💖
I have worked hard to have this with my daughter. I was "teachable." Early in my parenting, I devoured books by Christian authors like Dr.James Dobson, and Gary Chapman, and I sought to apply what I thought seemed reasonable and wise. I would recommend those authors still today, and for advice in blog (wonderful FREE resource) I recommend you go here, and learn from
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