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Tuesday, August 15, 2017

(B) Reflections after reading Ch. 2 of Boundaries



In chapter 2, this book by Dr.Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend has not been so much about learning how to take control, but more about understanding elements that are key to our decision making and even perhaps personality, that effects relationships, feelings, and boundaries there of.

Some epiphanies that I penciled in the margin of my book (borrowed from a friend- glad to think she loves me enough to put up with me writing in her book):

*A great language  template to keep in our tool chest is:


He/She is __________ and happy. You fill in the blank with annoying or dysfunctional behavior, like drunk etc...
You are ___________ and miserable. You fill in the blank with the result of the dysfunctional behavior, like tired, stressed, angry etc... 
What can we learn from this?...  What needs to change?...
Has ________ helped? ... What else might we try?

Pretty cool communication don't you think.  I haven't modeled this for my children and haven't had it modeled for me.  I haven't really used it, but I hope to from here on........That communication template was not even stated in this book, but it is something I took from a story shared.

There is awesomeness on every page of this book if you ask me.  Another epiphany that I got from chapter 2 is:

*If you interfere with people reaping what they sowed, you might be interfering with God's will !!! (Galations 6:7 )  Be careful and handle with prayer........  

*GOD obviously has boundaries, so should we !!

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I am not going to write-up anything on the other chapters, but I shared a taste.  

Have a wonderful blessed day.
Tammy@
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